Why Men leave Women

Marriage is an institution standing on a tripod of love, trust, and respect. On this tripod a marriage stands which also involves uncountable adjustments. Adjustments in today’s world appear to be an alien concept when individuality and self indulgence have taken preference over sharing and fellow feeling. Human beings have started to think themselves more as individuals rather than social beings.

Husbands and wives also think themselves more as separate entities instead of a couple. Marriage appears to be more as a convenience and condition rather than a bond of love and faith. It is true that both wife and husband have expectations from each other while in marriage. Alternatively, marriages are made out of expectations. Expectations of physical love, emotional support and thought sharing are usual. Marriages are relationships supposed to last a lifetime especially in conservative societies. It is only possible when expectation from each other is minimum or limited, love is unconditional, and faith is unquestionable. All these attributes are missing in marriage relationships now-a-days.

Love is acceptance of an individual as he or she is. This is possible though difficult. During courtship and in the initial years of marriage, man and woman or husband and wife are enamored with one another to analyze themselves. Judging each other does not arise if there is unfettered love and unquestionable trust between the spouses. Expectations, analysis, judgment only come in the absence of faith and unconditional love. If faith is rock solid, and expectations nil then marriage relationships can last for a lifetime.

Herein lies the irony. Marriages are born out of expectations; expectation of sensual pleasure, expectation of children, expectation of security, expectation of fortune, expectation of recognition, and expectation of care. These expectations may or may not be met. In the event each of these expectations is fulfilled the possibility of a lasting marriage is bright. But on many occasions these expectations may not be met allowing differences to set in. This is where acceptance comes in.

Acceptance is viewed as compromise, as a weakness, which might become necessary to make a marriage last. In this era of extreme personal freedom when each one is competing to establish himself or herself, compromise is a forgotten term. Independent earning opportunities, independent professions, independent opinions, and independent ambitions are discouraging people to accept and forgive. Even husbands and wives are falling prey to these ascribes.

Instances of neglecting one’s home and family in pursuit of ambition are common. Infidelity and extra-marital affairs to satisfy sexual desire is no longer an alien concept. Insensitive behavior and disrespect of spouse’s feelings have become daily occurrences. All these are results of unbridled ambition, limitless expectations, and zero compromise.

To keep a marital relationship alive, love unconditionally, be sensitive to your partner’s feelings, limit expectations, care a lot, and share.