How to prevent a breakup - Keep your love alive

What we all forget in any relationship is that our partners are different persons altogether with unique perceptions about life and that can never match 100% with ours. This is the point from which problems usually crop up. After we get deeply involved in relationships we show a tendency of controlling our partners’ actions. It’s true that we have responsibilities of guiding our partners, safeguarding them from all sorts of problems. But we definitely cannot impose.

In 90% of the cases, the reasons behind break ups are chiefly adjustment problems. We fail to adjust with certain habits, attitudes and approaches of our partners. But have we not known these before we got engaged? Psychologists say that at the early stages of a relationship, people try to hide things that they fear could irritate their partners and their partners too tend to overlook the flaws as the emotional level remains high at that stage. But after spending years or months together, these hidden and overlooked issues come up on top creating strains in relationships. But whatever may be the problem, there’s no point in running away from them. Escapism is not a solution.

People seldom actually can put an end to a true relationship. It affects their lives, their personalities, likes, dislikes, habits and keeps on coming back to haunt their thoughts. They are left with wisps of bittersweet memories and what disturbs them mostly is the eternal question ‘whether we have tried our best to make it work?’ If they chose to stay alone after a break up or even plunge into another relationship, this question will come and peek into their minds time and again if the love was strong and deep.

We are losing our patience, sensitivity and emotions in the process of keeping pace with the fast modern day life. But if you have a reason to love, keep that reason and your love alive at any cost. There are certain things you should consider to save your relationship.

Preventing a breakup - tips

• Patience is the first and last word in every relationship. So be patient with your partner and his or her habits
• Never make any comment or take any decision when your temper’s out of control. Maximum break ups occur due to some comments made at rage, at the heat of the moment.
• Always maintain transparency in a relationship. It’s the core point of any relationship and the best way to keep away misunderstandings
• Confess if you have made any mistake. Don’t indulge your ego in this case. Partners get less hurt when they get to hear about what you did wrong from you rather than from anybody else.
• Before going into a long term relationship, be sure about the reasons of your love i.e, why that person is special and keep on exploring more of your partner
• If you find that your partner is becoming indifferent, speak out and make him/her speak out as well. Analyze and discuss instead of letting indifference ruin your life.
• Sex is a vital point and a chief cause of many break ups. If you are dissatisfied sexually, talk about it with your partner and consult a sexologist. Though physical compatibility is very important, always keep in mind that what actually matters in life are comfortable companionship, love and care.